Showing posts from October, 2019
Dumping The Human Doing Addiction
By Karen Hasselo
Are you a special needs Mom who is fulfilling the role of a Human Doing? Do you find yourself...
             Rushing and racing from task to task, all in an effort to keep all the balls in the air?

             Stressed and overwhelmed much of the time?

             Focused upon what you haven't done, instead of what you have done?

             Focused upon problems,  preventing calamities and securing specific outcomes?

             Caught up in fulfilling obligations, duties, requirements and expectations?

             Experiencing frenzied and scattered energy?

             Tossing and turning at night because you can't shut off your overactive brain?

             Telling yourself much of the time that more efforting is the answer?

             Thinking so much about the future that you miss special moments that are unfolding
              in the present?

            Working harder to  control other people's responses, …
Getting Off The Merry Go Round Of Martyrdom
By Karen Hasselo
Beth Berry recently wrote a blog entitled, "Dear Mothers: We Can't Keep Pretending This Is Working For Us." Ms. Berry actually climbs out on a limb and declares that modern day American mothers  are oppressed! 
She asserts that the expectations for mothers have gone beyond exceedingly high and have crossed over into unreachable and unrealistic.  She notes that mothers themselves are complicit in this scheme because we have decided to invest in the noble struggle in order to preserve our identity as "good mothers."
And Mrs. Berry isn't even focused upon special needs mothering. In today's world, more often than not, you are expected to take the sole lead in caring for your child with special needs in your home.  You are sometimes the only voice speaking on your child's behalf. You are placed in the position to roll up your sleeves throughout all the developmental phases and do the extensive …